How to Stop a Toddler from Hitting

July 20th, 2009by admin

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Stop Toddler Hitting

Are you desperate to find out how to stop a toddler from hitting? As parents, many of us have been where you are now.  That’s the good news.  The not-so-good news is that there isn’t a single solution that’ll work for every child.  But you already know that by now, especially if you’ve got two or more kids.

That said, there are a few ways that work better than others.  But which one you choose depends on why your toddler is hitting in the first place, which itself may take a bit of detective work to find out if it hasn’t happened before in the same sort of context.

Just remember: while you’re doing that detective work, make sure you give more attention to the child who was hit than the one doing the hitting.  Why?  Because seeking your attention (even negative attention) is a very common reason for toddler hitting in the first place.  It needs to be addressed by meeting the child’s core needs in a more positive way.

If the reason is apparent, like one toddler grabbing a toy from another, then you’ve got a golden opportunity to teach verbal diplomacy (funny word for a toddler, but even the clumsy talking of a 2-year-old is better than hitting, right?).

And if that doesn’t work well enough, you’ll need to become more vigilant in fending off fights before they even start.  Just like us, toddlers will often have patterns that lead to outbursts.  You’ve just got to notice them in time and take action to separate the kids before chaos ensues.

Failing that, it’s important that you avoid outward frustration since that’s another form of attention.  Whatever your reaction, if you’ve got an emotional charge to it, that’s exciting in its own way to your toddler.  So do your best to stay level-headed even if you need to vent for an hour to your parent friends on the phone later (when your toddler is sleeping of course!).

Breathe deeply afterwards.  Every one of these episodes you come through brings you closer to their next stage of life and your next stage of parenting.  Sure, you’ll have other problems then, but at least you’ll know that all the hitting was just a phase.  It sure is a relief to know your child really doesn’t have a violent temper or hitting streak.

So take these basic tips and run with them, and your newfound knowledge of how to stop a toddler from hitting may turn the “terrible twos” into something at least slightly less tumultuous.

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4 Responsesto “How to Stop a Toddler from Hitting”

  1. john@toddlershittingon February 17, 201012:26 pm

    My wife and I were so frustrated with our son hitting his older sister and sometimes even hitting us as we were trying to discipline him. It got to the point that our marriage was starting to suffer because we were so stressed out and always arguing about how to discipline our son and how to get him to stop hitting others. Patience was wearing thin and our daughter would very rarely play with him because she was afraid of being hit it he got upset. You are right in that you need to be vigilent and be aware of when the tantrums and hitting are about to start. Time outs will sometimes work, but the best advice that I can give is to try to stay calm and take a deep breath once the tantrum is over. Patience is a must and sooner or later this phase will pass and you can look back and realize that this is just a part of parenting. There will be more stress and confrontations in the future, so you need to try to go with the flow and enjoy the ride.
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  2. missy81on July 14, 20103:54 am

    We had a similar problem with our daughter throwing tantrums and hitting…not good times at all, LOL. We got past it though, thankfully. A girlfriend of mine recommended this parenting program, It was a lifesaver for us. Check it out if you have behavioral problems with your child.

  3. stop baby screamingon August 18, 20103:22 pm

    I think you hit the nail on the head. Kids they crave for attention and by hitting out they are surely getting our attention.

    Good post. Thanks for sharing.

  4. Jett
    Twitter: joobuggoobug
    on March 29, 20114:34 am

    Yup this is definitely true. Is like laughing is contagious so yeah that’s the same thing for getting mad then leading to maybe yelling. Anyway interesting post, take care :)_
    Jett´s last blog post ..Cool Names

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