How to Help a Child to Deal with Anger Problems

December 14th, 2009by admin

We all get angry from time to time. Anger is just part of the human condition. It isn’t “bad” to be angry. Now, some behaviors that are the result of being angry can be “bad,” but it isn’t the anger that’s “bad.”

The same thing goes for children. Of course, children get angry — they’re humans, and sometimes other people (especially other children) or situations can just make them MAD.

As parents, we must instruct our children what appropriate behavior is in the face of anger. It’s a concept that a lot of adults have a problem with so starting early is a good idea.

The first thing that the child needs to know is that you don’t think that he is being “bad” because he is angry. He needs to understand that you are not angry with him because he is angry. He needs to know that it is perfectly all right for him to get angry.

Then the child must understand that his behavior when he becomes angry IS the problem. He has to be taught to control himself and not hit or bite when things aren’t going his way.

Let the child know that you understand how he feels by acknowledging the reason for his anger. You might say, “It must have made you really angry when Bobby took that toy away from you.”

Then you need to turn the focus of the conversation toward the actions that your child took because he was angry and point out that when he hits, bites, pinches, or otherwise inflicts injury on the object of his anger that he is not behaving in an appropriate manner. It’s an opportunity to teach negotiation and compromise skills.

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