3 Easy Ways to Boost a Young Child’s Self-Esteem

September 15th, 2014by admin

self esteemBeing a parent is a both a fulfilling experience and an enormous challenge. The way you behave as a parent will have a lasting impact on your child. It happens too often. Someone with low self esteem and limited accomplishments could have found success if they had received more praise as a child. Giving a child confidence is not rocket science. Below I discuss three easy ways to boost your child’s self esteem so that they can grow up comfortable in their own skin.

1. Assign your child responsibility.

If you give your children responsibility, it will make them feel more valuable. This practice has the added benefit of boosting their work ethic, a trait that has obvious value later in life. The best technique is to not simply hand over chores to your young child but to include them in the jobs you do around the house.

Giving your child responsibility can be fun for both of you. A great outdoor activity would be to plant flowers. Give your child the seeds and help them bury them. When the flower grows, your child will be thrilled that it was their doing.

To give your child a true sense of responsibility, reward them every once in a while for their dependability. For instance, offer to buy them a gift but only if they can prove that they can take care of their belongings. They should feel that they have earned them.

2. Give them the attention they need to boost their confidence (and keep them from acting out).

Give your child the extra attention they need. If you seem distant to them, they will act out and you might damage their self-esteem. Acting out is their way of finding out if you still care. If you give them ample attention when you are with them, it should help to prevent temper tantrums and it will make them feel treasured. This does not mean that you need to spoil them with gifts every time they behave themselves. If your child gives you a hug, however, be sure to show them affection back. When you are home, give them a fair amount of quality and exclusive time. Bring them to a park, play a board game with them and-or read to them. These small gestures of affection will remind them that you still care.

3. Commend them when they do something good.

If you do not often give your child praise when they feel that they did something worthwhile, it could have a negative impact on their self-esteem. You do not need to give them too much acclaim. If you do that, they might grow up with an impractical view of themselves and their accomplishments (besides, if you fake it, they will be able to tell). If your child writes you a poem, you should tell them how lovely that poem is and how impressed you are. In this case, the acclaim will give the child some motivation to use their creativity. If you were to passively thank the child for the poem, they might feel that their creativity is not adequate.

Giving your child ample positive feedback is also a great technique to help them avoid bad behavior in the long run. If you give your child positive feedback for something, they will like that feeling and will want to do more of whatever it was you praised them for.

Additional tip: When hiring a babysitter, make sure they have qualities that can help your child grow confidence. Babysitters can have a huge impact on the emotional health of your child.

Above are just a few techniques you can use to boost your child’s self esteem. The right balance of attention, praise and responsibility will give them a strong sense of value and they will likely find success throughout their life.


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