Many parents struggle with the spank-or-not-to-spank issue. It’s probably best here to define “spanking.” Spanking is NOT beating. Spanking is NOT inflicting bodily harm, hitting hard enough to leave a bruise, or using any “weapon” other than an open hand.
Until about 50 years ago, spanking a child as a child discipline measure wasn’t even in question. Most parents spanked. The general opinion about spanking was based on the Biblical admonishment of “spare the rod and spoil the child.”
Today parents struggle with the question of whether to spank their children or not. It’s not an easy decision, and you can find “expert” opinions that champion both points of view.
Those who advocate spanking say that young children are totally self-absorbed and intent on doing as they please. They say that the ONLY way in which a parent can have enough control over a young child to protect them is by spanking. Those who advocate spanking also say that spanking should only be used after other disciplinary methods have been exhausted.
Then there is the school of thought that says “no” to spanking — ever — under any circumstances. Those who are opposed to spanking say that a child learns what he lives, and if he is spanked, he will resort to violence when he gets older.
There are, of course, volumes written espousing both points of view. Parents must make their own decisions about spanking and a means of discipline and as a method to control their children and prevent them from injuring themselves.
There’s no “easy” answer to the question of “to spank or not to spank.” There certainly isn’t a “one-size-fits-all” solution. But parents who do choose to spank need to remember that they are only to use their open hand and that open hand should be applied only to the child’s bare bottom. They should also realize that there are other methods of child control and they should try all of the methods at their disposal before they resort to spanking.
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