Many parents have issues concerning children not listening. It can be very frustrating and also overwhelming at times, but there are some great ways to help resolve the problem. Avoid yelling as being louder isn’t going to get your child to listen to you any better. Instead, you need to take a more reasonable approach.
First, you need to take the age of the child into consideration. Does your child understand what you are saying to him? Is the child old enough to be able to follow your instructions? Does he need a gentle reminder or is he simply acting out intentionally? It is important that you don’t have unrealistic expectations for him.
The truth is that most children have a very short attention span. They can also tune out things they don’t want to hear. If your approach with your children is one where they feel backed into a corner they are going to be less likely to listen to you. Treat them with respect when you do talk to them, and you will find they are more willing to pay attention.
By the same token, make sure your children have your undivided attention when they want to talk to you. Too often as parents we don’t really listen to them, but they do learn by example. So we can’t expect them to listen to us well if we don’t show them how to do so.
You may have to adapt your skills for communicating with each child differently as well. This is because what they are receptive to will vary based upon their age and personality. Instead of being discouraged by their listening skills continue to work at it until you are both on the same page.
What you may not realize is that children love it when they please their parents. Instead of just punishing them, you want to praise them often. When your children do listen to you thank them for it. Let them know that you appreciate them listening to what you asked of them. When you do so, your problems with children not listening will be greatly reduced.
You also need to be consistent. Children will quickly pick up on the fact that actions have consequences. So when they do something positive there will be positive consequences and when they don’t there will be negative consequences. They should know what those consequences will be as well.
There are ways to ensure that miscommunication doesn’t happen too. For example, I have my son tell me in his own words what he has heard. That way I can clarify any difference of what he heard and the message I wanted to send to him. You also want to have clear reprimands that will occur when a child doesn’t listen. Consistency is going to help you to resolve such problems should they continue to arise with children not listening.